Thinking of leaving Republic
03-27-2018, 06:50 PM
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Hello All!
Im sorry to post here but need some advice from my fellow employees. I started at Republic in October and have been on reserve for about 3 months now. While I absolutely love the flying, I am having much difficulty adjusting to this lifestyle of being away from home all the time.
It is taking a very big strain on my marriage. My wife is also an airline pilot (For another regional) but we are having a difficult time with our schedules not mathcing up. I live out of base so having to fly into base for reserve (although being used fairly often) is not helping much. I was thinking of transferring to a more junior base to hold a line, but still the idea of doing this for the rest of my career is daunting to me. It makes me very upset to think I will spend almost half my life, if not more, away from home. The idea of even having a family or spending important days togehter in the future is completely out of the window for us. So my question is, what should I do , does it get better?
I was looking for other aviation jobs where I could be home more but am struggling to find any other options, I've even considered going back to college to change my carreer field. Id still love to stay in aviation but at my age (27) I feel like an absolute idiot if I give this all up now to move to something else. How bad would it look too if i Burn Republic after just 5-6 months of employment? I made the biggest mistake by not choosing a regional where I am living and chasing bonuses and higher pay rates. At the end of the day I love this company (so far
) but it is just not working out for me, and I am spending more money on hotels and commuting sometimes even having to buy confirmed tickets to make a trip and not loose out on pay.
Im sorry to post here but need some advice from my fellow employees. I started at Republic in October and have been on reserve for about 3 months now. While I absolutely love the flying, I am having much difficulty adjusting to this lifestyle of being away from home all the time.
It is taking a very big strain on my marriage. My wife is also an airline pilot (For another regional) but we are having a difficult time with our schedules not mathcing up. I live out of base so having to fly into base for reserve (although being used fairly often) is not helping much. I was thinking of transferring to a more junior base to hold a line, but still the idea of doing this for the rest of my career is daunting to me. It makes me very upset to think I will spend almost half my life, if not more, away from home. The idea of even having a family or spending important days togehter in the future is completely out of the window for us. So my question is, what should I do , does it get better?
I was looking for other aviation jobs where I could be home more but am struggling to find any other options, I've even considered going back to college to change my carreer field. Id still love to stay in aviation but at my age (27) I feel like an absolute idiot if I give this all up now to move to something else. How bad would it look too if i Burn Republic after just 5-6 months of employment? I made the biggest mistake by not choosing a regional where I am living and chasing bonuses and higher pay rates. At the end of the day I love this company (so far
) but it is just not working out for me, and I am spending more money on hotels and commuting sometimes even having to buy confirmed tickets to make a trip and not loose out on pay.
03-27-2018, 08:07 PM
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135 freight like Empire and Ameriflight, etc. are out and back, and then you go to Allegiant and are always out and back. You can have an airline career and still be home, it just won't be a glamorous one.
03-27-2018, 11:05 PM
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This is not about a woman’s right to work of course they have that. He was asking about how to save his marriage with both of them being 121 regional pilots whom at least one of which is commuting to sit reserve. Those of us with any insight have given solid advice that the situation will not work long term.
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03-28-2018, 12:58 AM
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It may come to you and your wife taking a look at your careers objectively... if you two have similar training records (ie same # of failures etc.) then it may be worth it for you to bow out of 121 life and let her to be the mainline pilot.
Or you could always go work for the same regional and bid her base and move there with her... there’s a decent chance she’ll be at a major before you are as long as her background doesn’t suck so you might just want to give her the ultimate “yes dear” and just start following her around career wise.
Or you could always go work for the same regional and bid her base and move there with her... there’s a decent chance she’ll be at a major before you are as long as her background doesn’t suck so you might just want to give her the ultimate “yes dear” and just start following her around career wise.
One needs to take the lead and one needs to follow.
Realistically ( as stated above) your wife’s career will progress quicker then yours.
So follow her.
Doubt it will make any difference to you in the long term, career wise.
She is just moving faster, yours won’t go slower.
Since she will be senior she’ll be making more money then you which means you can sit back and relax on monthly guarantee.
Which is a good deal since men die sooner anyway so we kinda need to pace ourselves
03-28-2018, 06:16 AM
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Some people here are trying to save his marriage yet you want him to go say “alright honey, you’ve had a good run and spent thousands on this career you’ve seen success in. Time to hang them up because it’ll make me more happy.”
You guys must not be married.
You guys must not be married.
03-28-2018, 06:53 AM
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OP listen to this guy! Honestly your spouse will probably make it to a legacy before you anyways.
I would tread lightly with asking any woman to give up her career for your career these days. Probably result in a lot of yelling and you sleeping on the couch.
03-28-2018, 07:10 AM
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Solid advice as usual from you, cheers.
03-28-2018, 12:15 PM
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Let me be practical. Suggesting that there’s a good chance of the whole thing working if they both remain 121 pilots is bad advice. If she gives up her career and there is a divorce down the line she will come out of it much better than he would if he gave up his career especially if they have kids. The family courts are slanted heavily in favor towards women in divorce cases. Just trying to prevent the guy from potentially submarining his entire life in the future.
03-28-2018, 01:10 PM
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Ya'll are pretty callous hashing out the demise of a relationship between two people you don't even know. To the OP, the general advice that a two pilot marriage is incredibly straining is definitely sound. I would talk it over with the only person in your life whose opinion should carry any weight. Best of luck and hope whatever decision you make gives you many years of happiness with your family!
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