SkyHigh

Statistically the happiest people are divorced or widowed women over 50. I have nothing against being single. I had some wonderful years as a single person however I do feel that it is important to give it a strong effort as a younger person since one of our higher and most satisfying purposes in life is to reproduce.


SkyHigh

Skygirl

Wild, there are some guys out there with arrested development issues. They're incapable of having any sort of meaningful, beautiful relationship. They're the kind that have to go to Asia and hire wh0res or buy what they think will be a subservient Asian wife, only to find that when he gets her back to the US, she merely used his money and him to get into the US and bring her family over. Happens all the time, and quite frankly I think it's hysterical to watch it happen to guys like that. I know one guy who has always been a total idiot, like the guys who frequent that website. He dumped his wife, went over to Thailand and found himself what he thought was a sweet young thing. After he got her US citizenship, moved her family over and put her through college, she CLEANED him out, and I mean CLEANED him out. He deserved all of it. Karmic payback sure can be a *****!

Skygirl

Well I'm 46, not quite 50 yet, but I'm happy. I've already reproduced and raised my sons and now it's time for me! I adore men, but don't need one in order to feel complete. Skyhigh, you can either choose to be happy or not.

wild4theuniform

Ya know, Sky, I think if this is how some guys TRULY feel, they should consider "switching teams." Funny how the guys who bash women are the ones who are the biggest wh*re-masters around. I guess they just have to keep proving to themselves how "heterosexual" they are!! What clowns! Sorry to you "normal" guys out there, but some of your brothers need to get a grip on reality and stop acting like hormonal teenagers. Geez, I have a 15 year old son who is more mature than some of you "men."...

Ninety Two, Set

Guys that marry women are about as dumb as the women that marry them in return. Dumb plus dumb equals divorce and disappointment.

Marriage really benefits nobody except for children.

Tech Maven

that's interesting... as i have noticed the opposite; that they're very bitter.

btwissel

of course they are. by that point, the husband's life insurance is worth more than he is. add in his Soc Sec she gets to collect, and life's pretty nice...

favila008

In my opinion I feel that the act of marrying someone is something that we must give serious thought to. I someday hope to marry, but not anytime soon. The fact is that marriage is not meant to be a form of producing children, or anything related to children. Marriage is not a way to have a constant amount of secure safe sex. Marriage is the process of unifying our selves with someone, and wanting to live with them, because we love them, and we want to be with them for the rest of our life. Now, wanting to be with them and loving them is not enough to make a marriage succeed. For it to succeed there has to be mutual respect, and a fifty fifty collaboration on everything you do. There is no reason why a woman should cook everyday of the week, many men often think that having a spouse is a way to secure and facilitate their life, which is sad, because the love wears out, and women begin to get tired of serving the “man”. (This could be applied backwards, with the man serving the woman).

The fact is that in the past women were supposed to stick to their husbands, regardless if they were moronic d*cks. Who only cared about themselves. Luckily now days, women are able to care for themselves, and we as a society accept that. Which gives women more leverage to leave men, and thus why we see more divorces.

I have personally seen some marriages in which women have to stick to men, who yell at them because they (woman) can’t support themselves, or because of the children, the reality is that everyone should be happy in life, and sometimes marriage proves impossible.

Another reality is that many, many people including woman don’t have the personality required for a good marriage. I have seen my fare share of demanding, and bossy girls, who would never make it in a marriage, unless they changed their ways. One also has to be careful because most people tend not to be themselves while you date, and once you get married to them you start seeing who they truly are. Too Late. Thus why you want to get to know the other person really well, and if possible live with them before marriage. I personally don’t see marriage as a great deal, because if you were meant to be with someone, all you have to do is prove it to your partner and yourself.

It is obviously more complicated than this, what’s good is that I’m young and have an idea of what I want in marriage, (not that I want it anytime soon, part of having a good marriage is going and having fun by yourself for a long long time.) I also wont get married to the first girl I see, because I don’t want to make my life a living hell. If I do see the right girl then I’ll marry her, if I don’t then I’ll stay single, there is no shame in being single. It is better than being miserable.

Just my two Lincolns.

wild4theuniform

The fact is that in the past women were supposed to stick to their husbands, regardless if they were moronic d*cks. Who only cared about themselves. Luckily now days, women are able to care for themselves, and we as a society accept that. Which gives women more leverage to leave men, and thus why we see more divorces.

Thus why you want to get to know the other person really well, and if possible live with them before marriage.

there is no shame in being single. It is better than being miserable.


Very wise observations! However, don't assume living together is all it's cracked up to be. I know of several friends who did this, and STILL ended up divorced. What is it about that little ring of gold that changes things? Hmmm....

ShadowFlight

Maybe for you that is life's purpose. But for others, it's not. We humans have many different higher purposes in life. Some have kids, others make society better, or any number of reasons.

I wouldn't advocate someone to have kids if they're not best suited for them. That doesn't do the kids any justice. Nor would I advocate that we should have only one higher purpose in life. That's a little narrow-minded to other purposes that may exist.

Different strokes for different folks.